OK, So what? Isn’t it just another cliché? Why should we bother acknowledging that?
Everything changes = Everything is in motion, everything is influencing and influenced. (Can you imagine the connectedness?!)🌐
There are small motions with almost no observable influence. And there are big, huge motions, with an influence that can’t be ignored. Between these two extremities – there’s a world of possibilities. Of course, it is also very subjective. Something very meaningful to me, could be of no significance to you. (And this would have no other meaning than – “It is just my subjective experience, right now”).
What happens while we don’t acknowledge that everything changes, or just don’t remember that 😉?
During an unpleasant situation, it might seem, as if it will last forever: “He will always disrespect me”, “She will never listen to me”, “He will cry all night long”, “I will fail all the exams”, and so on and so forth of horror thoughts and imaginations, which make us feel helpless, as if there is nothing we can do to change our experience. (Pay attention to your feelings right now, just from reading these sentences, and you will immediately understand their significance & influence as real time thoughts).
And what changes when we remember that “Everything changes”? 🤩
✨We become aware of the ‘Here and Now’ – “I feel bad, now”, “It’s not a good situation now”. So, it doesn’t mean it’ll stay like this forever, nor that it’ll be the same every time we’re in a similar situation. (Think about some pleasant past experiences, that you wanted them to last forever. And they didn’t. And to be honest, it’s good they ended. They wouldn’t be so pleasant if they lasted forever 😅).
✨We can control our criticism – towards ourselves and others – before it takes over us and makes everything look bad.
✨We can feel compassion – towards ourselves, for our current unpleasant experience and/or for the deeds we may have done, that led us to this situation.
✨And then we can be compassionate towards other people / factors involved. And avoid making the situation even worse than it is. Which enables better communications and relationships.
✨Because now we can understand that everybody’s “best” changes as well – since our physical & emotional resources change - and we are mainly not even aware of it all.
✨By letting go of the destructive criticism, we can be aware of the constructive feedback that enables us to understand what and how we can do and be better in the future. This opens the window of opportunities to gain some new learnings – behavioural, emotional and mental. (Literally, the chemistry in our brain changes, into one of neuroplasticity and learning).
✨And now, we can think of what we can already do, to create some motion, some influence – even if the littlest – to change something in the situation towards the desired direction.
Because we remember and acknowledge, that Everything changes, everything is in motion, influencing and influenced. So are we ☯️💞🔄️.
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